Sometimes your goals of being active may not align with friends or homemates, so reaching those goals can sometimes leave you feeling alone.
For me, when I was pregnant for the first time it left me feeling unsure about how to tackle my goals or feeling at a loss because my normal “ways” of reaching my goals I was told were unsafe or unhealthy for me and the baby.
Here are some solutions to sane and active:
Get outside. The vitamin D always does your psyche good – its a mood lifter. I once read that sunny San Diego was rated one of the country’s top cities for happy and active people – they attributed this to people spending time in the sun and being active in the sun (who wouldn’t want to with a beach front in your back yard?). Well…it’s not like the sun is only in San Diego! Which brings me to my next point…
Explore. I was surprised how much is available in my metroplex! It is known for it’s fine dining and shopping, so I never ever thought I would find AMAZING hiking trails just 40 minutes from downtown! Not to mention our spectacular lakes for kayaking! We even have little shacks that rent everything from canoes to paddleboards! Don’t be subject to your circumstances, make fun happen!
Ritualize. Plan a once a month outing. The scheduled time means you won’t break it and it could force you to get creative with HOW you will “out”. This month I rallied people to run a 5k with me. Next…hiking with the girlfriends! Now that the weather is warming up just a smidge I’ll bust out my lovely kayaks with the hubs or a girlfriend – or maybe rally a few others and rent from that little shack by the lake.
Don’t let anything stop you from your desire to be active – get out there and have fun with it! Active or not, people like to have fun, so maybe they just need an instigator – you! 🙂
Yesterday I left the office at lunch, but this time it wasn’t for the gym!! I was picking up a grilled chicken wrap! yum!
For the first time in what seems like a life-time ago, I bought my lunch. When I was paying I wanted to tell the cashier, “This is my first normal people lunch in 8 months!” But I refrained. I might have given her a heart attack.
This is not a post about fitness 🙂 though there are principles I can apply to my fitness journey. I wanted to take the time to reflect – today is the anniversary of my husband’s would-been-fatal car accident of which he was a passenger. He should not have survived and he should have had suffered brain and spinal damage.
image of car accident by onlooker phone
Today is always an annual reminder for me that life is unpredictable and that you truly mean the world to me. You are the joy of my heart and I am so thankful that the Lord spared my heart from the pain of losing you. I count it my greatest blessing and utmost honor to be at your side.
No one would ever know by looking at you all the pain you go through daily because of the accident. No one would know because you maintain an excellent attitude above reproach. You have never let it stop you and have never let yourself become a victim of the suffering. I admire you. Thank you for leading by example Job 2:10. I’ll never forget when you were in so much pain and I was so angry that this had happened to you and you quoted “Shall we indeed accept good from God and not accept adversity?” I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!
For this reason, I do not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that you walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God. Col 1:9-10
This is your charge. That you walk worthy of the calling which is set before you.
So proud to be your wife and so grateful for every moment I can learn from you.
Remembering The Story
A Good Friend is Like A 100-Ways Bra…very supportive for many situations…
As we journey through our fitness endeavor, it is important to have support and accountability.
If you live with other people who do NOT follow your same lifestyle it is SO hard. Don’t get angry though when they don’t get it or even when they give you a hard time. No one could possibly understand the ripple affects of “just one won’t kill you” or 4:00am cardio unless they are doing it themselves or have done it before.
One thing I have LOVED about being at Jerome’s gym surrounded by so many ridiculously fit people is….they SURPRISE ME EVERY DAY with how friendly and kind they are. I remember my first day – they treated me like they were so excited to have me join their world. I expected snubbed noses and critical eyes scanning my untamed body. Let’s uphold this reputation – let’s make onlookers feel like they can be apart of this. Let’s be that person that empowers them to make a lifestyle change. You can’t be an inspiration if you are no fun to be around 🙂
Michelle inspired me with her “daily 5 things I am thankful for”, so…
I want to make sure I always ask myself “who am I thankful for right now, this very moment?” and have I told them? 🙂
What does “support” look like to me and am I also doing this for my friends?
Friends I am thankful for right now:
- My daredevil sister, Leah, who is never jealous of me, but lives alongside me inspiring me to stay disciplined. In my opinion she has no room to be jealous because she is smoking hot, a daredevil on the sports, and the most lovable personality on the planet (so maybe I shouldn’t give her credit for never being jealous of me 🙂 )
- My brother, Robert/Berteezy/Tito/Hamstray, who always asks me about my day or how was the gym. He also asks me “can you do that” when he sees me go for a cheat food. Booger.
- My girlfriend, Val, whom I meet for Bible study every Tuesday night – I just called her to see if we could move it an hour earlier (eek!) – she was so supportive! Thank God for great friends who will bend their lives to see you live yours, yeah?! She inspires me to live for Christ, not as a separated event, but as a lifestyle.
- Esther, my childhood friend, who recently prodded me on in my endeavor and gave me words of inspiration just as I was beginning my in-season prep
- Em, my “life-er” friend who has been in Germany for a year, came to Dallas and made time for just me – A good friend is willing to be “inconvenienced” and I have always felt that Emilee has done this for me if I ever would but call on her. She too inspires me to live for Christ, not as a separated event, but as a lifestyle.
- Bikini or Bust 2011 girls, they ALWAYS take the time to encourage each other, send inspiration and comfort if we ever need it during this crazy thing we actually call “life”. Susan (blog), Lisa, Liz, Nicole, Kathy, Deb, Jessica, Cheyenne, Chantelle, Julia, Tracey, Michelle, Donloree (creator of BoB)- I could not do this without you!
- My in laws, I know they don’t really understand this lifestyle or this craze for muscle, but they are the sweetest cheerleaders I could ask for. And totally willing to not make a cheesecake when they know I can’t eat it anyway.
- My cousins/aunt/uncle across the street, they always ask me how it’s going and are the most genuine people you will ever meet
- My stellar parents, who though they do not like the idea of me being on stage in a bikini (at ALL), are very proud of my displayed discipline and tenacity. They ask from time to time how my training is going and that means the world to me
- My husband, Luke, he is so hot which I find very inspirational :P. His crazy work ethic inspires me to go strong at the gym and he is always great about complimenting me or telling me how proud he is of my tenacity and pursuit of ambitions (sometimes I wonder, “are you talking about ME?!”) It’s nice to have someone who YOU put on a pedestal, seem to put you on a pedestal too
- My daily dose: Luke, Donloree, Michelle. I am addicted to these 3. I can always count on them to lift my spirits, prod me on, light my fire and make me laugh at this life. (and yes, I listed these guys twice)
Thank you friends. I am so thankful for you!
This is a follow up drawing at the request of my husband due my previous post about us working out together.
Sometimes when I talk I seriously think it gets translated in his head to something entirely different.
“Make it hurt till it bleeds”– Jerome’s Gym
I workout alone. On a RARE occasion I get to meet my sister or friend at the gym, but 99% of the time it’s just me. I work HARD. I smile at those who pass or will say hello to familiar faces, but I am focused. I probably won’t hear or see you while I’m in a set.
My husband and I have very opposite schedules, but last night he was going to be at the gym at the same time! Sweet!!!! I was ULTRA SUPER DUPER excited when I found out we were even working the same muscle group! WE GET TO WORKOUT SIDE-BY-SIDE?!?!?! This was going to be AWESOME.
We set out to the first exercise, deep squats. I love the squat rack. As soon as it was up for my turn, he started giving me pointers to ensure I had good form and got the most of the exercise. I always appreciate that because LUKE REALLY KNOWS HIS STUFF! (which is so hot, by the way) Then of course I was pushing HARD, really giving it my all and he was chanting things to me like “push harder!” and “go deeper, your body is strong, your mind is weak, tell yourself to push harder” … yeah…after 1 set of that I snapped. Poor Luke…he didn’t know I couldn’t handle the chanting because I’m just not used to it. Not to mention my tolerance level was low because I was exerting everything I had into the exercise. 😦 He can’t read my mind!!! (although I’ve been looking for a school that offers that course)
Commence uber guilt trip. I apologized to him later and he was so sweet and cool about it. He was like, “It’s ok, I learned something new about you” *Smiles fascinatingly as if he learned that I fart bubbles and glitter*
Moral of the story…know your limits and be slow to speak.
Great verses from the Bible to live by
//In case you were wondering, I adjusted my attitude when I realized what I did and we were able to finish our workout
together in harmony and smiles. We’re “newly weds”…we get over things fast 🙂
2010 started out to be a great year and it resulted in a very life changing course correction!
Big plans to run my first half marathon were tanked after a snowboarding trip souvenir: a broken tailbone. This road block however, sparked the new series of events leading to an entire course correction. I learned during recovery that I love staying at home and if/when we have children I know I now want to be a stay at home mom. Also was blessed by a new found accountability partner in my walk with God. I finally had time for art again and had time to reflect on fitness goals. Why stop at half? I knew I was capable of more, so I immediately put full marathon on the list. I discovered that I wanted to pursue bodybuilding. Begin training with a pro, check! Get in to the best shape of my life to date, check!
2010 taught me that I was doing much of my life for myself…by God’s grace and prompting I was able to refocus my life back to where it needed to be. My quiet times have never been so consistent. I am not perfect, but now I have accountability and opportunity to make course corrections when I notice I fall off. What a GREAT year of learning! Amazing how God is so patient with us 😀
I am excited to see what the Lord has in store for me in 2011…what imperfections will He choose to refine? What weakness of mine will be put to the test?…I am not perfect, but I do feel more prepared to face the new year than I was at the beginning of 2010. Let us press forward not as achieved, but achieving!