I read this post on devilliers. wordpress.com and it pressed a button of mine. ^_^ I think the author seems like a sweet person and I do think she is writing for the greater good, but I think this particular post creates a “rule of thumb” that is too specific to be applied across the board. 🙂 Because I love making my body a home-improvement project ^_^haha
Screw magazines that tell you to focus on what you’d like to improve about your body. Heck, if you’ve got one, burn it. If you’ve got health issues to deal with, or need to make some healthy changes in terms of what you’re eating or not getting enough activity, do that. But your body is not a home-improvement project. Most of it is perfect as-is, right now. So, document that. Sit down and make a list of all of your favourite parts, and write down why they’re your favourite. Maybe you like your eyes because they’re aesthetically beautiful, or your legs because they get you where you need to go. If you need extra help when it comes to appearances, instead of comparing yourself to fashion mags, get some pictures of your relatives, as far back as you can go, if they’re available to you. In them, you’re going to find your arms, your hair, your face — you can discover where a lot of you came from and see yourself a bit differently when you’re looking at you in someone else.
Not sure I would go so far as to say “screw magazines” :), but if magazines make you feel worse about yourself then trash them. But if you find yourself motivated by magazines, then by all means, buy them! As a married woman I see the value in showing my husband that he is worth the effort and energy to take care of my body and skin. I don’t have a perfect body, but when I stay active it shows him that I care. I think some women take “be happy in your skin” too far to where it becomes “pleasant complacency”. I like your post, devilliers. I just wanted to make an additional note… 🙂